Supporting with Words: Navigating Conversations with a Grieving Loved One

Losing a parent is an experience that leaves many of us searching for the right words to comfort a loved one. It is a profound and deeply personal loss that may leave those grieving feeling adrift. During this challenging time, your compassionate and understanding presence can provide valuable support.

A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” can often be the most comforting. It’s straightforward, sincere, and doesn’t minimise the pain they’re experiencing. Avoid clichés such as “They’re in a better place” or “At least they lived a long life,” as these phrases can unintentionally invalidate their grief.

Listening is another essential part of supporting a grieving loved one. They may need to share memories, express their feelings, or talk about their parent. Be patient and offer a listening ear, even if they repeat the same stories or thoughts. This repetition is often a crucial part of the healing process.

Sometimes, practical help can speak louder than any words. Offering to cook meals, run errands, or look after their children can provide tangible support when they are overwhelmed by grief.

Lastly, remember that grief doesn’t follow a schedule. Long after the funeral, your friend will still miss their parent. Continue to check in on them in the weeks and months following their loss. Your ongoing support can mean more than you might think.